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My new article at Nuts4chic is about ghosts and sex. Who you gonna call?
I talk about the Carla Moran case, which was made famous in the movie "The Entity". That movie is being remade in Japan, home of the scariest ghost stories out there. Remember "The Ring"?
Check out my article and come back here and talk about horny ghosts!
I was cruising the Interwebs yesterday when I saw that Vir Magazine, a new men's magazine, is looking mighty fine! It isn't ready to launch yet, but it's getting there. I hadn't heard from the owners in awhile, so I wrote to them yesterday. Things are looking great, and I expect to be writing for Vir again soon. I am Vir's sex columnist, and I expect to have out one article per month, as far as I know.
I already have an article up at Vir, and it's so popular that Google picked it up. It's about the lure of those sexy older women - cougars. The most famous cougar at the moment is Demi Moore. She married her younger man, Ashton Kutcher. Other famous cougars include Susan Sarandon (and Tim Robbins) and Naomi Watts (and the late Heath Ledger). The cougar who seemed to have started it all was Anne Bancroft as Mrs. Robinson in "The Graduate". However, cougars aren't viewed in such a negative manner any more. The television show "Medium" even covered cougars, with Rosanna Arquette as a cougar who wrote a best-selling book about how older women can find those hot younger men.
Here is the link to my article about cougars at Vir Magazine - Today's Exciting Older Woman - The Lure Of The Cougar. Head on over, read it, and make comments! There are already five comments over there, including mine.
Being a cougar is all about enjoying your age and not being ashamed of it. Sexy older women have rejected men their own age who have tossed them aside for younger women. Since cougars invade older men's "I will date younger people" territory, that makes the older men feel a bit slow and old. Here's an excerpt from my cougar article at Vir that looks into cougars:
Valerie Gibson’s book, “Cougar: A Guide For Older Women Dating Younger Men”, lays out the cougar in all her juicy splendor. You know what you are getting with this book because of the luscious tongue licking a pair of bright red female lips on the book’s cover. Cougars loathe commitment, and according to Gibson they view their men as “prey”.
When most people think of May-December romances, they think of a silver-haired older man with a young, lovely creature hanging on his arm. These men reject women their age for younger women. Older women today have fired back at men their age who overlook them in favor of dating nubile young women. Some older men feel threatened by cougars, since cougars make them feel slow and old. Cougars invade the “I will date younger people” territory that has been held by older men for aeons. Gibson wrote that separated and divorced older men “are a major source of hostility when it comes to older women dating younger men.” The cougar merely turns her head away from these older men, and gives them the brush-off that they have been giving to older women for years.
Being a cougar is a fun thing for the women who like it. I personally gravitate to older men, and I have as long as I've been interested in men. Still, I wouldn't turn down a younger man. Some have been interested in me, and I liked the thrill of being viewed as sexy by a man ten years younger than me.
Here are some good things I've noticed about younger men, when I was in the dating scene. I'm married now, but I can still look. 
Keep in mind that these observations are coming from a woman who has normally gravitated towards much older men. I guess I like men of all ages.
* Younger guys like the same type of music I like.
* Younger guys are more likely to like the quirky films I like, especially horror movies and cult films. Every time I raved about how much I love those gory Dario Argento Italian horror flicks, it's been a younger guy who raved with me.
* Younger guys lavish attention on sexy older women who are with them.
* Younger guys don't treat their cougar like a child. However, they do like to be spoiled.
* Younger guys tend to not have ex-wife and kids baggage. There's nothing like a bitter, divorced, middle-aged man to put a damper on the sexy fun.
While the sexual "prey" aspect of the cougar is attractive, I think that there is much more to being a cougar than dating younger men. Cougars are not afraid of disagreeing with anyone or stating their opinion without feeling that they have to have approval, especially male approval. They are financially independent, or at the very least they are earning money doing something they love. They enjoy sex, and they like to experiment. They are intelligent, and they enjoy learning more about life. Cougars are in control. Poor self-esteem is not one of their problems. Cougars are comfortable being themselves, no matter what anyone else thinks.
So, head on over to Vir Magazine and read my article. Once Vir is definitely up and running, and I have new articles up, I will post here giving you directions to read and leave comments.
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First, take a look at your wallet. Bedtime Heaven carries dildos and dongs in a wide price range, so it will be easy to find a dildo or dong that won't break the bank. Then, ask yourself what kind of dildo do you want. Do you want to use it in your vagina or in your anus? Bedtime Heaven carries both types of dildos, and there are many different styles to choose from. I was very impressed with the types of dildos available. There are G-spot and prostate massaging dildos and dongs. Do you prefer a realistic dildo or one that carries the shape of a penis but has additional perks, such as ribs and a larger than average girth? Bedtime Heaven carries both types of dildos. Do you want to hold the dildo yourself, or would you prefer a strap on dildo that frees up your hands to explore your partner's body?
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I found the selection of dildos and dongs to be very impressive. No matter how picky you are, Bedtime Heaven will carry a dildo or dong that is perfect for you. The categories are easy to navigate, and the pictures help the shopper know exactly what he or she is looking for. Descriptions of dildos and dongs on each page are very detailed and easy to read. You won't be at a loss looking for the perfect dildo for yourself or a friend.
The price ranges were very good, from inexpensive to costly. There are quality dildos and dongs available at many different prices, so anyone can afford to buy and dildo or dong from Bedtime Heaven. I also liked the variety between the different sex toys. There are all kinds of colors, from basic black to pastels, and the sizes vary from small for beginners to huge for those with experience with dildos and dongs.
All in all, I was very impressed with the variety of dildos and dongs carried by Bedtime Heaven. The site is easy to navigate, and payment is easy to do. Go to Bedtime Heaven today and choose a few vibrators for yourself or for someone you care about. They make great gifts!
Is your sex life the same old, same old, humping in the bedroom?
Get out of bed! Take your love life on a trip. What's more exciting than almost getting caught?
MY latest article at Nuts4chic is about putting some spice back in your sex life by changing the location.
I talk about my time at a state park when we were caught by a cop. Others tell about their fun exploits, such as in a deer stand, of all places. Want some ideas other than the kitchen table and in your bathtub? Read my article!
Bedtime Heaven UK has three goals in mind - excellent service, high quality products, and low prices. And it delivers. Bedtime Heaven UK offers thousands of quality sex toys and their inventory grows daily. They have strong relationships with many vendors so that they may give customers quality, name brand products at reasonable prices. Bedtime Heaven UK also communicates well with customers - something important in the Internet age.
Bedtime Heaven UK is Shop Safe, which prevents hackers from getting your credit information. The site also offers discreet packaging so that your Aunt Edna can't see the butt plug and anal beads that just arrived in the mail. Other offers which make the site appealing are free batteries, billed as BTH Holdings for your discretion on credit card bills, free delivery over £30, secure ordering, and stress free returns. All in all, a good way to do business.
The site is a pleasant lavender color on white, which is easy to read. Categories are to the left. A list of top sellers is to the right, with cheap sex toys and clearance items at the top. At the moment, the Rabbit Vibrator is their number one seller, which isn't surprising since the Rabbit is a top-notch vibrator. Two pussy pumps are on the Top Seller list, as are the Rude Boy Vibrator Prostate Massager. Prostate massage is popular sex play, and I'm not surprised to see a prostate massager as a best seller.
Categories are broken down into vibrators, boy toys, girl toys, anal toys, dildos, gay, clothing, bondage, fun and games, adult films and books, and lubes and essentials. Everything you need is right at your fingertips. Name brands are also available, including Kama Sutra, Doc Johnson and Wicked, and Toy Joy.
There are eleven different subcategories in the Vibrator category, so you're bound to find several vibes that you like. Bedtime Heaven UK sells jelly vibes, rabbits, G-spot vibes, and eggs, as well as other types of vibrators.
The Boy Toys category carries everything from masturbators to cock rings to sex dolls. The ever popular Fleshlight is available in several different varieties. A man may even buy a pocket pussy in the shape of Jenna Jameson's pussy. With seven pages of masturbators, a guy is likely to buy more than one.
The Girls Toys category carries nipple teasers, pussy pumps, clit teasers, and other toys. Finger vibes include a butterfly and a rabbit. A woman may use the finger vibes on much more than their clits. Use those vibes on her nipples, her breasts, her belly, and her anus to drive her wild! There are two pages worth of pussy pumps to choose from. Choose one shaped like a butterfly, or one that comes with a nipple pump.
Whether you are new to bondage or an old hand at it, there are bondage toys to please everyone. Leather cuffs and plush soft cuffs are available, as are leather collars with the words "Master" and "Slave" on them. There is even a pink leather "Bad Kitty" collar. There are three pages worth of whips and paddles. You can get a leather whip to go with your "Bitch" paddle. If neither appeal to you, how about a crop? You can ride him until he bucks no more! There are many nipple clamps and even nipple jewelry to choose from if you like a little nipple play. There are even vibrating nipple clamps for that extra kick. In the clothing category you'll find fetish and bondage costumes such as latex dresses, bondage tape, a rubber gag mask, and a peephole bra.
No matter what kind of lube you want, whether flavored, warming, or just plain lube, Bedtime Heaven UK carries it. Brand names include Pjur, Kama Sutra, and Elbow Grease. Check out the lubes, and pick one or more for your own sexy time!
All in all, Bedtime Heaven UK has plenty to satisfy even the most picky customer. With discreet packaging and great customer service, buyers are likely to be very happy with their choice of sex toys. Enjoy yourself, and treat yourself to some good, sexy fun at Bedtime Heaven UK.
Twisted Miss is a delightful sex toys store located in the U. K. Since I'm always on the lookout for new sex toys stores, I was happy to find this one. The colors on the web site are very easy on the eyes - grays with a smattering of magenta lettering. Very nice, and easy to follow and read.
Grabbing your attention immediately on the main page are all the sex toys that are available at a reduced price. Several varieties of rabbit vibrators are available, as are some fleshlights and a vibrating cock ring. Not a bad selection at all. There are many different kinds of sex toys available to please all your fantasies.
The categories listed off to the left provide an easy way for discerning shoppers to find exactly what they want. Cheap sex toys and Clearance items are at the top, which is a good place to put them because everyone likes to find a bargain. Each category is divided into sub-categories, making it easier to find exactly what it is you are looking for. Dildos and vibrators have their own sections, with sub-categories for specific types of dildos and vibrators. The ever popular fleshlight is featured on the main page and in the "Male Sex Aids" category. One category that impressed me is the sex dolls category. The sub-categories run from expensive and cyberskin sex dolls to the cheap ones. There is even a category for Japanese sex dolls, a few of which are of anime women. I was happy to see that there is a category for male sex dolls.
I wasn't sure at first what the Vac-u-lock system was until I looked at the items for sale. They are harnesses. One variety comes with a 6 inch erect cock and a removable butt plug. This category includes many different types of harnesses, and one and maybe more are bound to suit your sexual needs. Attachments include cocks in many sizes, from short chubbies to longer dildos.
Vibrators are divided into several important categories, including rabbit vibes and G-spot vibes. The Pocket Rocket, a popular vibe, is in the "Discreet Vibrators" section, where it belongs. Ladyfinger is in the same category. There is a huge, four page selection of "Discreet Vibrators", which is very impressive.
A few of the names of the categories made me curious. I had to see what "Fun Vibrators" was all about. I have never in my life seen a vibrating carrot, but Twisted Miss carries one. It's the cutest thing! The vibrating bath sponges would be great for a little sex play in the sunken tub or shower. Rub My Duckie and Rub My Fishie would make great gag gifts for someone with a very special sense of humor.
There are plenty of anal toys to choose from. Some of them are in the anal toys category and others are in gay category. Whether you want a butt plug, anal beads, a penis pump, or a cock ring, Twisted Miss carries it.
Do you like fantasy play? Buy a costume to do some role-playing. There are nurse's uniforms, sexy maid uniforms, school girl costumes, and bunny girl uniforms. There are even pretty plumber and corrupt cop uniforms available You can play Reverse Cowgirl with the Rhinestone Cowgirl costume.
Related to costumes is lingerie. There is an impressive selection, including bustiers and corsets as well as babydolls and teddys. Stockings have been sexy for decades, and Twisted Miss carries many varieties. The swimsuits are very sexy as well, especially the monokinis. Monokinis were popular in the 1980s, and I'm glad to see them available for sale at Twisted Miss. There is even a sub-category for men's underwear.
Lubrication is very important, and Twisted Miss carries many different types of lubes. There are warming lubes, flavoured lubes, and anal lubes. If you want to steer clear of desensitizing lubes, Twisted Miss carries warming anal lubes, which are much better for your sensitive anus anyway. There is even a lubricant specifically designed to be used on glass dildos. That's impressive.
Cleaners are an important part of playing with sex toys. Twisted Miss offers several different sex toy cleaners, including PipeDream Toy Cleaner. Always keep your toys clean after using them.
Twisted Miss carries the very important product guides, so that customers may learn how to use products they are interested in, but may be a bit too shy to buy. Once customers familiarize themselves with the products, they are more likely to buy them. Twisted Miss answers any questions you may have.
All in all, Twisted Miss is a very good web site with a broad range of products that are bound to suit everyone. The prices range from cheap to expensive, so there will be something that will satisfy your pocketbook.
My latest article is out at Nuts4chic. This one is about how to attract a quality man, and what you shouldn't do so that you don't screw up your chances. Here's an excerpt:
There were about two dozen suggestions as to how women can find men who don't live in their parents basements playing World Of Warcraft for endless hours while surviving for days on bags of crisps.
I was overcome by the desperation behind most of those suggestions. Here are a few, and what I thought of them.
1. Ask 10 of your friends to set you up - Do you really want all of your friends to know how hard up you are? Blind dates are part of the Ninth Circle of Hell, in case you haven't heard. Another suggestion – Date Online – is also worthy of Dante's Inferno.
I've been invited to be a guest speaker at this year's Arisia, which is a SF/F convention held in Boston. It's the biggest SF/F con in New England. I went last year and had a blast.
Just got my panel list, and I'm happy that I'll be on a panel with Cecilia Tan again. She runs Circlet Press, which publishes SF erotica. Pretty cool stuff.
Here are my panels. If anyone reading this is going to Arisia, maybe we can meet up. Fun times!
Literature Heat Between the Sheets: Writing/Selling Erotica
Sat 12:00 PM 1hr
Nomi S. Burstein, Cecilia Tan, Victoria Janssen, Trish Wilson/Elizabeth Black
Finding markets and Calls for Submission; what editors want (or have seen far too often); general submissions protocol; erotica in speculative fiction.
Literature Ghosts and Vampires and Werewolves, Oh My!
Sun 7:00 PM 1hr
Ed Fuqua, Victoria Janssen, Trish Wilson/Elizabeth Black, Sara M. Harvey
An exploration of current trends in paranormal romance. The panel discusses which trends they like, which trends they hate, and which trends might be the next big thing. What are the best reads currently available?
Fannish Lifestyle Humor & Sex
Mon 12:00 PM 1hr
Thomas A. Amoroso, Trish Wilson/Elizabeth Black, Eric "in the elevator" Zuckerman (m)
Sex can be a beautiful, poetic expression of love, or a passionate display of lust, but sometimes it can be a comedy of errors. A funny look into where you put that leg, what was that sound and satin sheets sound romantic until you slide off of them.
My latest column is up at nuts4chic - Faking It, about faking orgasms. It might be harder for a man to fake an orgasm, but it's easier for women. Why do women fake it? Read the article and find out!
Next week - Things Men Do In Bed That Turn Off Women. Lots of anecdotes and generally fun times to be had!
Here's my weekly column for the British pop culture e-zine, Nuts4chic:
Why Do Sex Slang Terms Have To Be So Stupid?
I talk about those silly sex slang terms we all know and love as well as the stupid nicknames my mother gave for my pussy and ass. It seems all parents are too embarrassed to call a vagina a vagina. And what's the deal with "vajayjay"? That sounds so embarrasing, childish, and stupid.